Home Hair store A Sexual Wellness Expert’s Advice for Vacation Adventures, Nudity, and Self-Love: The...

A Sexual Wellness Expert’s Advice for Vacation Adventures, Nudity, and Self-Love: The Women Who Travel Podcast

7
0

THE: This week, we’re talking with a familiar voice, Laura Delarato, Women Who Travel contributor, body image advocate and sexual wellness expert. Next Tuesday, she officially adds another role to the mix as a published author, her book, My Pleasure: An Intimate Guide to Loving Your Body and Having Great Sex, will be in bookstores from March 29, so today we’re talking about travel, sex and self-love. Hello, Laura.

Laura Delarato: Salvation. Wow, I feel so happy to be back.

CM: We are so happy to have you.

LD: Back, back, back again.

CM: Exactly. I wish we had the rights to (sing) but we sure don’t have the money to insert that so you can just have my fun voice singing for you but I want to start by asking how to travel and self -even love intersect for you personally.

LD: I grew up as a very shy child. I grew up in a bit of an unstable environment and for much of my life I spent it feeling very enclosed and feeling like I didn’t deserve to travel, or couldn’t be a person traveling. And when it started to become something that I really wanted to get into, I realized that when I did, when I booked trips and really went on those adventures – my adventures were like going to Portland for four days, going to Chicago for three days – it made me rely on myself and every decision I made.

And when I got home, I realized that everything I thought was terrifying didn’t scare me anymore. Every single I will ask someone out; each, I will seek a second opinion from the doctor; or, I’ll ask for a raise, it was less terrifying because I was just in a city, alone, by myself with only the information I have about that city’s subway, which is often very little and traveling is a way for you and for good, for me in particular, to understand a different place, how people live and how that can reflect in my life when I’m back in New York. And it just made me feel a lot more confident as a person to travel.

THE: One of those stories you [wrote for us] discussed meeting abroad and when you travel, what was that trip like and what lessons did you learn about yourself from those experiences?

LD: Really, the best date I ever had was in New Orleans. I went to New Orleans and I had this great date because I asked this person, I said, “Show me something that I would never see as a tourist. Don’t show me the French Quarter, show me something else. And this person took me to a hole in the wall, a super cool burger place, and then another really cool music place that wasn’t on any list I had ever seen. I saw this really cool electronica band that I didn’t know existed. I remember leaving at the end of that date and just being like it was a real travel experience that no travel blog would ever give me. So I think it allows me to get to know a person in their city on their own turf, to experience a part of – in this particular case – New Orleans from a completely different perspective and to have this intimate fantasy of all. You’re a new person in a new place and depending on how you feel, and depending on how I feel, I often go into these scenarios saying, I’m going to communicate with this person that it’s a date unique because I don’t live here, PS And I can be any version of myself that I want to be on this date. I think as long as I’m communicative and protecting that person’s heart and protecting my heart, it started again, like coming back to New York and hanging out with friends and communicating and all that so much easier because now you ‘ve had this model, this roadmap in this TBD, WIP, all the other places of work-